I took care of myself the best way I knew how, and nothing about me, other than the fact that I am a woman, brought on his behavior.

When I was 24, I went out on a date with an attorney/actor (who would later go on to be prosecuted for a federal crime and lose his law license). When we were driving away from the restaurant where we had had dinner, he put his hand on my leg, tried to pull my hand to his penis, and asked me if I wanted to go back to his place. I was afraid of him because he kept it up even after I took his hand off my leg and let him know sex wasn't going to happen. Finally I snapped at him, "You're a fast mover, aren't you!" and he said, "It's you. It's all your energy." It made me sick. He was saying something about me MADE him act disgusting. He walked me to the door when we got back to my place and he proceeded to grope me and grind his groin against me until I was able to pull myself away from him. I blamed myself for letting him walk me to the door. I blamed myself for being such a twisted person that I would attract someone like him. I blamed myself for not punching him in the teeth. None of this was my fault. I took care of myself the best way I knew how, and nothing about me, other than the fact that I am a woman, brought on his behavior. - Mary