I feel as if I've disappointed my parents and that I'm just a low life slut.

I fancied this guy despite the fact I hardly knew him (let's call him Lee). Okay, so me and Lee dated 3 times within a month. Lee was a charming guy who was decent enough looking. A month after we first went out, he started taking a sexual interest in me, but we weren't together at this point. I thought we loved each other, but months later I notice it was an unrequited love. Lee started asking me for sex and nudes, and he told a lot of his mates. I told my other guy friend (let's call him Jon). I had previously dated Jon twice before Lee. Jon then started taking an interest in me. We dated for a short while and I dumped him. A month later, me and Lee had fallen out. Whilst I was walking alone, Jon greeted me with a hug. He then squeezed my breast, I was disgusted by his behaviour. So I walked off and told him to f*ck off. He didn't. He then ran up behind me and did it again. I repeated my words and started walking faster, he then hit my arse. He did this in front of his friends. A couple days after the incident, he then asked me for sex and pictures. He said, "It'll just be two best friends losing their virginity to each other" - we're both 12. He also said "I'll be a good shag". I then dated another guy (he shall be called Joe). Joe was in the year above me. 2 hours into the relationship, he asked me for sex. I dumped him. At the minute, I am dating one of Lee's best mates (let's call him Declan). I hardly talked to Declan before we got together, unless I was dating Lee. Declan is now asking for sex. My parents found my messages with Lee and they are threatening to send me back to my home country. I really don't want to move, and it isn't my fault these guys took an interest in me. But the boys will say it was all my fault; my clothing provoked them, I've got a nice 'pair', I mentioned sex. I told my closest friend (say she's called Rosie). Rosie said that guys would start calling me a slag/slut/whore/hoe/etc. and maybe girls as well because of my actions. I used to self harm whenever stuff like this happened, and I've been clean for 31 days, but it all seems worthless. I don't know what to do, and I feel as if I've disappointed my parents and that I'm just a low life slut. Sometimes I think it's my fault, because I didn't stop Lee from talking about sex, I didn't stop Jon from touching me under the table during lessons and that started the things with Declan and Joe.

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