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​These are stories shared by people of all genders from various backgrounds all over the world. As these compiled experiences show, the issues of sexual assault, harassment, and "slut" shaming have affected and continue to affect many of our lives in deep, often dangerous ways. Use these stories to expand your understanding and share them with others who could benefit from their insight. Reproduction in whole or in part is prohibited without consent.

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Private slut-shaming from an intimate partner is equally psychologically disturbing.

10/11/2019

 
I was two months into a relationship. He and I communicated intimately, and I felt the security to share my thoughts and feelings with him. One afternoon, we discussed sexual fantasies. He shared, I shared, and it felt like a safe space. So I opened up more and told him that I was interested in the idea of sex with multiple partners. Bam. The beginning of nine months of shame and torment. I didn't know that this liberal and open-minded person held such possessive and sexist views about women's bodies, but I would learn. For the rest of the relationship, the theme of me being a slut, trash, a whore, a tease, a pervert, and having no self-respect wove its way into everything. I was a slut for smiling at our guy friends or for enjoying sex too much. My ideas about sex were sick, and I probably should be "one of those girls in pornos," that I would like degradation. He was threatened by my body, my sexuality, and slut-shaming was a way to terrorize and control me. Most of what is shared on this site deals with public slut-shaming, but private slut-shaming from an intimate partner is equally psychologically disturbing. It has taken me years to deconstruct the shame I grew to feel around sex, and we all need to work together to unshackle ourselves from the blame of living female.

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